I have got many positive as well as negative feedbacks in past.But I have to say that this is the most honest feedback I have received so far which has moved me.The gentleman promised that it will be a 4 page feedback and I am amazed that he did take that time out despite being a father of a new born baby where you hardly get anytime to write so indepth and heartfelt write up.Thanks and I promise I will try to smile more often.
Hi all,
I became a dad on 1st Dec 2013
to a lovely girl child… Thanks to Dr Kaushiki, both mom and baby are doing
well….. Let me rewind 9 months ….
This was the first time we attempted and
also conceived, we would be first time parents…. We didn’t know ABC of handling
pregnancy… Like most people I started searching the internet on who is the best
doctor etc… I must say that I too believed that any doc who can perform a
normal delivery is a better doc… let me say that’s not true ( btw Dr Kaushiki
helped us delivery via Vag Delivery ! )
.. There are many reasons for which many doctors perform a C-sec , most of the
times the reason can be the money involved for the institution where they are
employed… I understand that .. most big hospitals are run like corporations
with strict P/L statements driving the underlying behavior, I don’t think its
completely wrong way of functioning after all its not like they are running a
charity. Everything comes at a cost …
As I said at the beginning I didn’t know
much .. I think most people think this way that a doc is good if its vag
delivery and a cheat if it’s a C-Sec ….. I read up lot of reviews ( women )
talking good about Dr Kaushiki, I did more research online….. and decided to
make Dr Kaushiki my doc for my first baby… my wife didn’t have any opinion on
this.. she had left the decision upto me… I learned of the pros and cons of C
sec v/s Normal Delivery … … but my take was always… that “Doc !! Pls do what is best for the child/mother given the situation at
hand “, it doesn’t matter if it’s a normal delivery or a c-sec. But since I
read that Dr Kaushiki has a high rate of normal deliveries I approached her as
my best case scenario. Its absurd to demand a normal delivery at any stage of
the pregnancy and especially at the beginning, there are a million changes that
are going to happen before you reach week 40 how can any one or any doc
gurantee you that it will be a normal delivery ?
My first day at her clinic, she opened a
big folder with lot of paper in it….. and I was like what is this… that big
folder had “My Pregnancy Book” written on it…LifeCell had apparently created
the binder .. which later changed to Cordlife… but that’s fine everyone does
their branding… and Dr Kaushiki never recommended me that I should go with this
cordbank or the other…( that’s what I love about her, she doesn’t dole out
unnecessary suggestions which may potentially make you think she has vested
interest in those deals )
I
liked it , Dr Kaushiki meticulously recorded each and every thing which was
required to create a background of the pregnancy and try to zero in if it’s a
high risk or low risk pregnancy…. In that first meeting I would say she came
across a bit cold / professional ( may be she was not having a great day or I
was expecting some one very jovial or happy or equally excited as we were that
hurray we will be parents J ) but then it was the first
meeting… and I would say its not a small fee to see Dr Kaushiki , it was 800 Rs
then ( Apr 2013) for those 15 minutes..
The reason I approached Dr Kaushiki ( which
I later also told Dr Kaushiki herself ) is I feel that she has “arrived” in her
life… now I know all of us have different versions of being “arrived” and may
be Dr Kaushiki has not yet “arrived” in her professional life.. and she may
have many more personal milestones but I strongly felt that she would just not
do a C-Sec to make dirty money for the hospital she may be working for… as at
this point of her career she would definitely give much more importance to the
quality of her practice and her Name than to some cheap money made by
performing unnecessary operations……
Also Dr Kaushiki has vast experience of
workin in NHS in UK, you should read up a bit if you are not aware of the
healthcare system in the western world, I lived in US for few years and I often
saw comparisons drawn up between the US and UK healthcare system. Working at
NHS means that the focus is on the outcome and the compensation of the doctor
will not change if it’s a csec or normal delivery, doctors get trained and
habituated to do what is in the best interest of the mother/baby. So as Dr
Kaushiki also shared I guess that has ingrained in her way of working as those
might be her formative years…. So Patient first comes naturally to her.. and
because of that attitude fame/money automatically follows… so that’s another
plus for Dr Kaushiki.
When I reached home after that first visit
I poured over the entire book she had prepared… there are some 250 plus questions
she has answered… more importantly I liked the two page basic description of
her practice at the beginning was something which made me believe I did the
right thing by going to this doc…. In brief she said…..
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My way of working will be based
on scientific evidence
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I will not recommend any
ultrasound clinic or any other test/clinic
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I will not pamper you
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I am not always reachable on
phone, you may have to sms and wait for response or email me
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Be prepared to be late while
sitting out in the waiting room for your appointments, because If my patients
ask questions I answer them and it may take 15 min to 1 hour.. you will have to
be patient.
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With all this said if you want
to be my patient , then welcome lets start this journey.
These two pages sold me…. But I would not
say that all this came our very professional and a bit cold but then again I
consoled myself that its ok, atleast I am getting a honest doc who talks
straight and calls it as it is…
In the age of internet every adult who can
search in google thinks of himself as an expert…. This is a big mistake… what I
have learnt is that google will give you what you are looking for…. It will
corroborate your original belief.. for example if you type “Is Dr kaushiki bad”,
it will give you results corresponding to your search and if you type “is Dr
kaushiki good” you will get those good results…. Same goes for when you try to
find out any specific things about pregnancy… Understand and accept the fact
that if you are not a doctor you are not going to become one in 9 months and
don’t even try to become one for that matter… dr kaushiki understands that we
have lot of questions and hence she has put out answers to so many popular
questions which would be parents have… I would say if you do want to learn , go
to babycenter.com a trusted resource which will have researched material.. or
the other best option ask your doctor.. email her if it’s a long question or
set of questions..
Dr Kaushiki has a plan and she sticks to
it…. I think she works in a venn diagram mode J which is very good… in the beginning itself she made it clear on
when and why would she need ultrasound reports .. earlier I was skeptical of
too many ultrasounds but that was one of my mistakes.. ultrasound is completely
safe get it done as many times your doctor asks …
Our pregnancy continued uneventful for most
of the period, my wife stuck to the diet prescribed and did what ever was asked
of her… all the meetings with Dr
Kaushiki were brief and to the point not one meeting going over 15 mins.. we
usually had our questions before hand and she always answered them promptly. I
must say she didn’t recommend a ultrasonologist until we really forced her and
that too she gave multiple options.. but were ok, we just wanted to go to
Ultrasonologist whos work Dr Kaushiki was familiar with as this aspect is very
critical, Your doctors decisions depend on the progress shown by the ultrasound
reports…
During this time upto 34 weeks I never went for a second opinion or
to another doctor… I am of the opinion that unless you really don’t trust your
doctor, why go for a second opinion , this is not a movie you are going to
watch over weekend.. say your second doctor says something completely opposite
to your first doctor what would you do… whose opinion you would take.. would
you take the opinion which you like ? does that mean your medical condition is
being treated on what you “like” are you a doctor .. or are you a qualified
person to even judge what is good for you and what is not ? Hence I would say
try to put lot of thought in picking a doctor, then trusting them… otherwise
you would keep on taking multiple second opinions…
I also used to keep going back to Dr
Kaushikis blog, even though she is a proponent of Vag delivery , she says on
the table its mostly the mother who asks for a C-Sec as these days women cannot
/ do not want to go through the actual pains of delivering normally , that was
a revelation and I concur with that fact, some of my friends told me that doing
a C-Sec was their wives first and only choice… so don’t go and paint all
doctors in the same color, if some of them are doing C-Sec , they may be
requested by the parents themselves… In one instance infact on the same day
when my wife was to deliver I saw a would be father and his mother seeing off
the would be mother into OT and the father shouting from behind 10:20 AM se
pehle karna . 10:20 AM se pehle karna… ( Deliver before 10:20 AM ), so there
you go another reason to have CSec so you can have the perfect kid based on
planetary positions J, its not the doctors fault if they
do CSec ….
Our case was getting complicated as it
neared its term… Dr Kaushiki asked us to take a call on a matter and also gave
her opinion on it…. at this point I took second opinion ( which I didn’t want
to but was forced to ) those second opinions were not good at all in the sense
of the clarity of thought… they just said continue as it is…. ? but why ? what
are the repercussions to continue or induce labour, and all of them said it
will be a CSec, which was not a concern to me as what I read up on the subject
at times the baby is not strong enough to take the strain of a Vag Delivery and
the doctor may take a call to do a CSec to protect the baby…. On this too Dr
Kaushiki didn’t say that it will be normal delivery or a Csec, which was fair,
I again iterated to Dr Kaushiki that the reason I came to her was that she will
do the right thing , so I was convinced that if it has to be a Csec there will
be good grounds for it.. and in the end Dr Kaushiki told me that don’t worry if
anywhere in the world your baby can be delivered normally it will be delivered
here… J I went with Dr Kaushikis opinion and moved my wife to the hospital…within
18 hours Dr Kaushiki helped us deliver the kid normally … it was just
excellent… there was so much support in the labor room , everything went like
clock work…. It was just another day for Dr Kaushiki in office but life
changing event for us….
I am so proud , not just because Dr
Kaushiki took care of us during the 9 months , not just because her advice was
based on scientific evidence, not just because she helped us Vag Deliver the
baby.. but because she definitely upheld my belief in doctors that not all
doctors are alike…. And some of them are honest….
Max
Hospitals – if you are reading this.. feel lucky
and be proud that you have Dr Kaushiki working for you.. kindly don’t put any
kind of “assurance” schemes on Dr Kaushiki and let her be… she is the queen of
your chess board and a queen works best when she is allowed the freedom to move
anywhere anytime…. Please note she is one of those doctors which brings
credibility and good will to your institution. If I were you , I would have
held biweekly calls with Dr Kaushiki just to know if there is something that
Max Administration can do for her to help her see patients , deliver babies
better.
Other
Gyne Doctors – When I took second opinion, I spoke
on phone with few of them, I must say no matter how good a doctor you are , but
when you ask my Gyne’s name and then smile/laugh first and then talk.. you have
already lost me… Please be professional and respect your peers, even if you
don’t have a high opinion of any doctor kindly don’t let that be known in no
uncertain matter to your patients, the patients anyways are under lot of
stress, you smiling laughing and doing a “know all” attitude and making the
patient feel that they are in wrong hands is not winning you any brownie
points…. Its then I realized that the curt behavior of Dr Kaushiki is better
where only professional inputs are given to qualified questions… no drama.
Most importantly please try to have an
honest practice like Dr Kaushiki has, even Sachin Tendulkar has said in his
farewell speech "Fame and
Fortune will automatically come to you if you pursue Excellence" , and try
to be humble, you will get more respect.
Dr Kaushiki – cannot thank you enough for you are reinstalling the
belief patients carry in doctors, which is being steadily eroded by some
doctors by not being honest … also you have a great smile, flash it often… I
know you don’t want to pamper the would be mother J , but a reassuring smile always works J
A Few things I learnt from my experience…..
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Try to get a doctor who works
close to your home/office , it will convenient esp In the later months as last
thing you want is to deal with traffic while commuting to then frequent trips
to ultrasound clinics and doctor visits.
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Put a seat belt on your
pregnant wife no matter how slow the car is going.
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Massage your wifes feet every
alternate day in upward motion , it will relieve her off the swelling and pain.
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Would be mothers – all through
the pregnancy keep massaging olive oil or any other good massage oil all over
your belly and back area if you want to minimize the damage done by stretch
marks.
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Would be mothers – don’t skip
any meal, most of you have smart phones, make an account in caloriecount.com
and ensure you eat right… you don’t have to eat fatty stuff but just eat enough
quality stuff.
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Read up and follow
babycenter.com , the smart phone app version of the website is very nice, it
only brings up those things ( changes in your body ) which come at the right
time ( week wise ) so you are aware of what is happening with your body and you
will not panic or worry.
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Get a juicer / blender and whip
up fresh juices off mausmi etc , avoid canned food/juices.
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Avoid Cut fruits at any cost…
ie don’t cut an apple and keep in refrigerator.. consume the food immediately.
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Do go for cordblood banking,
which company , I will leave it upto you.. but do go for it, its not costly and
it’s the only opportunity to save the cord blood and cord tissue , once in a
life opportunity it will never come back, and who knows in next 20 years how
much would science progress, god forbid should you never need to use it , but
its like an insurance. Companys have EMI options and as little as 2500 rs per
month for 2 years you can get this service done.
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Try to get a Ultrasonologist
who your doctor trusts…. Believe me there is +-15% variation in every reading
they give.
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If you are a smart phone user,
keep a todo app handy, I regularly use Wunderlist app on iphone and I used to
jot down any doubt / question that I may have for the doctor , I used to bring
up the list of questions when I used to visit my doc. Make your appointments
count and try to get your questions doubts answered….
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Its very important that you
trust your doctor, if you don’t trust your doctor and feel he/she is inept or
taking you for a ride , leave immediately , you are wasting your and the
doctors time.
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Having a single or double loose
loops around the babys neck is not the qualifying condition to do a C-Sec, if
your doctor is saying that’s the case then do take a second opinion. Its time
that patients are not scared into CSec by doctors..
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(For Guys) Leave the decision
of Csec or Vag Delivery to your doctor and your wife.. don’t force your opinion
on what is right or wrong.. you are not the one who is going to deliver and you
cannot even imagine the pain a woman goes through. Also understand there may be
many situations where a CSec is better for your wife and baby than a normal
delivery, like I said since you and I are not doctors , find a good doc and
trust her.
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Be patient while waiting in the
waiting room for the doc, because if you are not patient or irritated that its
taking so long to see the doc, one you are going in with a bad mood to see the
doctor, two you are taking unnecessary stress. Please understand if a couple is
taking time, it must be important , you could be that couple..
